March Reflections: Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Peace
As spring begins to emerge, it is the perfect time to reflect on your past and how you would like to feel going forward. If you’ve experienced a high-asset contested divorce, custody battle, or just an emotionally draining episode, now is the perfect time to reclaim space, energy, and peace. What is one of the most powerful tools that you have this season? Boundaries. At the
firm we know how difficult it can be for women to set healthy boundaries, especially those who are caregivers and nurturers. Boundaries aren’t about building walls. They are about drawing lines to protect your mental, physical, and emotional well-being. They are not selfish; they are necessary.1. Define what peace looks like for you
Before protecting your peace, you must know how it feels. Is it a co-parenting plan that is free of drama? Is it simply not responding to late night texts from your ex-partner? Is it simply having time alone on the weekends to recharge?
Take a moment and ask yourself:
What does peace mean to me right now? You will be able to identify where boundaries are necessary by identifying what disrupts peace.. Communicate Clearly Without Apologizing
When you set a boundary, you don’t have to over-explain or justify it.
Try:
“I’m not available to talk about this outside of scheduled times.”
“For my wellbeing, I’m no longer engaging in conversations that feel hostile.”
“I’ll respond to messages during business hours only.”
Reminder:
Clear is kind. You can speak directly and calmly without feeling guilty.
3. Limit Access to Your Time, Thoughts, and Emotional LaborNot all people need access to your energy, time, thoughts, or emotional labor. Whether it’s setting stricter communication boundaries with your ex, saying no to family pressure, or pulling back from draining friendships,
you’re not responsible for managing everyone else’s emotions.
Protecting your peace means preserving your energy for the people and things that truly matter.4. Create Physical and Emotional Space That Feels Safe
Sometimes boundaries aren’t just about what you say. It’s about the spaces that you create. It could be having a space that is just for you. Pro tip:
Find calm. Each night, light a candle, take some deep breaths, or write in a journal. Signal to your body and mind that it’s your time.
5. Boundaries are not a one-time event, they’re a practice.
You might have to remind others. You may have to adjust. That’s okay. It’s not about being perfect. It is all about staying aligned with what brings you peace and growth.Permit Yourself to Rest
As this month winds down, let yourself settle. You’ve been through so much. You’ve been through a lot. You’ve grown. Now it’s time to protect what you’ve built with care, intention, and confidence.
At the
Harris Firm
, we believe peace is a legal and emotional right. We can help you with the final stages of a divorce, modify a custody agreement or protect your peace legally. You’ve earned peace. Now protect it.
Attorney Steven A. Harris blogs regularly on this website in the areas of bankruptcy, family law, probate and real estate closings. Mr. Harris strives to provide information in an easy-to-digest format to the public. We hope you enjoyed the article and welcome any feedback. We love to hear from our readers!Sharing makes caring:
